Monday, September 07, 2009
I am sad ): so very sad )):
so, i decided to surf yahoo and type "how to cheer someone up" into the search bar and clicked on the first result that came up.
the first step says:
Make faces.
There's something called the "facial feedback hypothesis" which basically says that whatever face you make will affect how you feel. Usually, it works the other way around: if you're grouchy, you scowl; if you're happy, you smile; if you're surprised or scared, you open your eyes and mouth. But it's a two way street. If you want to feel happy and cheerful, force yourself to smile. Really smile. Hold that expression for 10 seconds. Repeat as needed. It's almost like engaging the "smile muscles" activates the "happy section" of your brain associated with smiling.
so, i tried. i raised the sides of my mouth and smiled for 10 seconds. and guess what? it's true! i did feel a little lighter. but just for that 10 seconds. ): my heart sank again after that.
the fifth step says:
Be thankful.
Everyone has something to be grateful for. Make a list of the good things that have happened to you. If nothing instantly springs to mind, you aren't trying hard enough. If all else fails, think of how life could be worse, and flip the thought process to recognize what you do have. For example: You're flunking out of school. How could it be worse? You could not even have a chance go go to school. You could be at the end, rather than the beginning of the term. Then your thought process can turn into "Well, at least I have a chance to go to school, and I still have time to turn my grades around." Get a notebook and a pen, and write down all the good things that you have. Every time you are feeling negative, read through them and remind yourself that it's not all bad.
i am thankful that mayping is trying to make me feel better and telling me funny things to make me laugh, again. hahaha. yeah and i am thankful that yulong's laughing at me. but after that he was nice enough to tell me dont be sad, he scored low too, and we could be sad together.
the seventh step says:
Forgive.In addition to being thankful, it is also good practice to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. Sit in a quiet place with your eyes closed and concentrate on the people you want to forgive. Imagine you are sitting in a circle with those who have done you harm. See their faces in your mind, and take turns concentrating on each one of them individually. When you really feel connected to one of them, say out loud, "I forgive you". Ideally this routine is ended by forgiving yourself for things in your life that you regret or cannot control. The purpose of this exercise is to create serenity with feelings of peace and renewal. Note that you don't forgive others for their benefit (or because they deserve it); it's for your benefit, so you can put the past behind you and move on.
I forgive you, examiner. even though i do not remember your face. i do remember though, thinking to myself you look like the new potions master in the half blood prince. lol.
and lastly:
Accept.
This concept, which is central to eastern philosophies like Buddhism, is based on the idea that the world is perfect just the way it is. There is much around us that isn't perfect.. and that's okay. We can just accept this state of affairs, and decide that we don't need our life to be perfect in order for us to cheer up. This is related to the point Be Grateful, above.
Do i accept that i'm an almost failure, that my 5 years of blood sweat tears hardwork and pure love for the music is worth only this much? not just yet. maybe in a few days.
and then as you scroll down that website, there's a warning at the bottom.
If, while making a list of the good things that have happened to you, nothing springs to mind, see a doctor! This is a possible indication of clinical
depression. Clinical depression can be medically treated, but left untreated can result in loss of job, friends or life.
ok. wow am i glad i can still think of good things. and now i can add this to my new list of things to be thankful for. that i'm not yet clinically depressed. congratulations, myself (:
