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Wednesday, November 29, 2006

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teenage life.

its claimed to be full of stress, pressure from both friends and parents, rebellion, tension between parents, need of freedom to hang out and date and stuff.

adolescence.

no wonder people hate it so much.
but personally, it doesnt have to be all that bad. really.

if you just think about.

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stress and pressure.
who's giving them? yourself? parents? friends?

lets say its just you. ok, we're not talking about too little stress here. a fair amount of it is good, pushes and drives you to do well, gives you the desire and need to do well. but too much is harmful, obviously.

if thats the case, then ask yourself. why are you giving yourself so much stress in the first place? are you really not doing well enough? or is the desire now too ridiculous and too much for yourself to handle? you need to give yourself some air to breathe, some space. driving yourself all the way can really drive you up the wall.

by then, you have to rethink about your goal, your purpose. is it asking for too much? is it needed? if not, then why are you pushing yourself so hard, adding uneccessary stress?

if you're just really not doing well enough, then you have to think, what went wrong?
why you're not doing well? stress on wrong areas?

so if you really just slowly and carefully think through these questions, and try to relieve some uneccessary stress on yourself, it wont be so suffocating.

also, take some time to breathe some fresh air. go to the park, clear your mind, do some exercises. laugh a little, listen or play some music to help you relax.
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now about rebellion. ok its in some people, and then again, its not in some. AND, i'm in no position to comment about this, cos i dont really feel rebellious. lol. cos its like.. to me, there isn't a need to.

parents. you may think that you do not like what they always want you to do, and may want to go against them. but i believe that if both parent and child foster a good relationship from a very young age, the parent will grow together with the child and will understand each other better, even during their teenage years. after all, parents were teens once too. they knew how it felt to want to go against their own parents too.

if you really feel very distant from your parents, give them some chance too. what they want you to do is for your own good too, they have your interests at heart, although sometimes what they want is not the best. but parents are humans too, they make wrong choices too. talk it out with them, let them know you, what you really want.

ok, so you may also think that, why should you be the one giving way, right? if you're not going to, and the elders are not going to, this will never be solved. too bad if it doesnt then, cos you know who to blame. and you should feel ashamed if you were'nt the one to take the initiative.

and if you have talked to your parents and they wouldnt give some leeway, then think back. maybe what you're asking for is really too overboard and your parents are just trying to protect you. they wouldnt want any harm to come upon you too.

talking to your parents also eases tension between you and your parents.

golden tip: be more 大方.

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freedom, hanging out and dating.
oh man. what about this one, huh? this is subject to each and every single parent. every parent is diffirent, they have different opinions on stuff. some doesnt want to give you too much freedom to keep going out of the house to hang out and stuff cos ultiple reasons. could be fear of bad company, bad influence. fear that you may get harmed, ?kidnapped?. there are lots of reasons to this, like duh? there are so many things out there in the world to be careful of.
while on the other hand. some parents actually WANT their kid to go out more often, to get exposed to the real world, see stuff, meet people from all walks of life, learn to be independent, be streetsmart, not to be too pampered. while this can be good for the child to a certain extent too, yes, but others may just think its too dangerous, as stated above. WHILE, still, some may think these kinds of exposure to danger may be good sometimes, lets the kids learn to make good choices for themselves, learning to say 'NO', deciding whats right for them, testing their own moral values.
like i said, this is really up to each parent. so give it some time, they have their own reasons. bear with them, they only want you to grow up good.
dating.. hmm.. i dont know what to say for this. also on each parent to decide which age, who, what type, to what extent, etc etc. i for one is not interested in this. heh.
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